Because I was too good so find boyfriends

I am a relatively smooth since life experiences, harmonious family, great. After graduation from the university and acquired many people admire the opportunity to study in the United States, is a master's degree.
I had a very optimistic upward, always ask yourself continuously, not in difficulty, setbacks before submission. Many know my friends said I'm independent, very strong, but sometimes too. Only pay attention to own the world, ignore others feel.
My hobby is widespread, once learned the piano for more than 10 years, also had to study painting, and love sports. Like tennis and watch sports games.
My face is not outstanding, but is partial. Extensive interest and life experience, especially foreign life experiences of my life concept, especially independent life attitude.
My question is, I never had boyfriend, although there are a lot of male friend very close relationship. I hope my boyfriend than I, and I can communicate well, have a common interest.
But around my life circle, I almost couldn't find such a man. Even once appear, also may be someone's husband, or don't like me. But I cannot bear and a not I love together.
So, even though many people pursue me, I couldn't response to their feelings. Although I often lonely, a strong arm. So I began to despair, feel the life also won't have my ideal lovers appeared.
Write a lot, waiting for your reply.
Experts reply:
Hello! Your independence is worth our Chinese women. For many women suffering from excessive dependence.
But your "too" is to reflect problems. "Too good to you." and the superior. It will affect the men with you together. You don't want to find your men, but good men from the heart not self. For a long time, how could he put up with your "excessive"?
Therefore, in that you need to practice! The method is uniting all things perspective-taking. And stand in the standpoint of others.
You 24 years, right? Why the 24-year-old to find her boyfriend will have a sense of despair? It needs a self-examination. Love and marriage are her fate. Therefore, in our fate no comes before practice only. Look for the book in his psychology has a deep understanding. Look at what you are. Then ask yourself what.
But understand oneself is actually an easy thing. Don't listen to Freud put a word into the "I", "me" and "super me? You can also through psychological consultant to help you understand yourself